Anyways,back to the main topic.
Yes yes..I know. It's this topic again...*sighs*
I get so frustrated about people who still do not fully grasp the meaning of being a friend.
Just in case for those of you who did not check up the meaning of friends,here's a definition provided by Wikipedia..
Friendship is a term used to denote co-operative and supportive behaviour between two or more humans.In this sense, the term connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, and affection. Friends will welcome each other's company and exhibit loyalty towards each other, often to the point of altruism. Their tastes will usually be similar and may converge, and they will share enjoyable activities. They will also engage in mutually helping behavior, such as exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship. A friend is someone who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflective behaviors. Yet for many, friendship is nothing more than the trust that someone or something will not harm them. Value that is found in friendships is often the result of a friend demonstrating on a consistent basis:
- the tendency to desire what is best for the other.
- sympathy and empathy.
- honesty, perhaps in situations where it may be difficult for others to speak the truth.
- mutual understanding.
Being a friend is being a person who understands the person who you are to befriend with. This in practice means you are able and willing to tolerate that person's behaviour;the flaws,the imperfections.If it can't be tolerated,then why bother being friends?
To have a friend is to be able to have someone to keep you from feeling lonely. To share all that is good and to wipe away all that is sad. To help when one is in need and to understand when that friend needs it.
People need friends more when they are down rather when they are joyous. And if a friend can't be a friend,why bother getting to know each other in the first place. Friends should hold no grudge and to forgive all that is forgivable unless it's a problem which is unforgivable,in which case,should have broken up the friendship.
I understand from my point of view that lots of my not-so-current 'friends' are not sufficiently being friends except for a few ppl. There's no sense of real friendship being with them. I don't know. Maybe I accidentally torched someone's house on fire when I was sleepwalking or maybe accidentally rammed into someone's car while being so drunk that I can't remember. Please tell me I did not do that...yet. Because as I know,I did not commit crimes nor any sins so great to be exiled from a group of people.
But in a way,I am tired,frustrated and had given up all hopes of changing myself. I don't find the need to HAVE to change myself. I am who I am and the world is round. I don't need to please people just to make friends. Maybe in the corporate world if I own my own business but not to make genuine friends. I just don't care about what people think anymore. To put it rudely,I don't give two Fs about other people's judgement of me. Only God is fit to judge me.
And don't think because of this attitude I would not have any friends. I have lifelong friends from my old school and even some new people I met recently. The most important people in my life now are my parents,my dear gf and my old friends and I'm done. They know me and they accept me for me. Non had asked me to change the way I am and why should I just to fit in somewhere?
Here are a few examples....
;p LioNeL ;p welcome to crew FU @_chris_@ better pray that i dun get hired this year
;p LioNeL ;p welcome to crew FU @_chris_@ then i can balik and yc with you
;p LioNeL ;p welcome to crew FU @_chris_@ didn't manage to do that like we said we're gonna last time
..or from a friend who's just broken up with her stupid ex-bf
GTS~u can lie to everythin but u cant lie to ur HEART @_chris_@ as long as u chat with me every time i online can ad.. keeps me company
GTS~u can lie to everythin but u cant lie to ur HEART @_chris_@ u n lionel not bad..
GTS~u can lie to everythin but u cant lie to ur HEART @_chris_@ willing to listen to my sadness
GTS~u can lie to everythin but u cant lie to ur HEART @_chris_@ i felt better after talking to u
That's all for friends testimonial. Can't reveal the rest or they'll think funny and kill me.lol
Anyway,point proven. I am who I am and I do not hold grudges against anyone unless there's a major reason for me to. For example,my gf's ex or my friend's ex-bf. They deserve to have their heads smashed against a wall.
But for all the bad treatment,the exclusion from certain activities and the forgotten of my name,I hold no grudges. I can't be holding grudges everytime you all do these type of things. My head would be filled with this stupid,immature problem and I won't be able to concentrate on more important aspects of my life. It's up to you to take your own initiative to do things like this on your own because,'nuff said,I am fed up of changing and pleasing people.
I take the good if you give and I do not care about the bad I'm bound to receive.
